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Escapism…what the heck is that?
Let’s start with figuring out what escapism is! Escapism is the act of mentally separating from something unpleasant by focusing on something entertaining or getting
What are my favorite things about EMDR therapy?
6 Favorite Things About EMDR Therapy Before getting into my favorite things about EMDR therapy, if you are interested in learning more about what EMDR
Elizabeth’s Therapy Style
Elizabeth’s therapy style is rooted in the application of her expertise to help clients reach their goals. I met Elizabeth as a therapist first and
Moriah O’Barr
How I met Moriah Moriah and I met under unusual circumstances. I was hired as the Assistant Clinical Director at Monte Nido in March 2020,
Locus of Control… and Why it Matters
Locus of control (LOC) is a theory coined by Julian B. Rotter in 1954. The need for this construct came about when Rotter wanted to
EMDR Certified
EMDR Certified Therapist – What does that mean? EMDR trained and EMDR certified therapists require hours of training and commitment. They are passionate about working
Advertising Literacy and Diet Culture
You are constantly bombarded with advertising trying to sell you on something, especially diets. A popular and ever-growing subset of advertising is taken up by
Worry Thoughts Eclipsing Joy
With the solar eclipse fast approaching, I could not resist using it as a metaphor for worry thoughts! And who doesn’t love a pun?! NASA
Playing for Personal Growth
Playing is one of the first ways we engage in learning and personal growth. Infants and toddlers allow their curiosity to abound, which results in
Self-Care and Our Best Selves
I was recently asked to give a presentation at an activity in the community on the topic of self-care. I wanted to focus more on
Compassion, is there room for that?
Is there room for compassion? This is a question I often ask clients. It’s important to weave self-compassion into your routine. The world can be
7 Different Ways We Can Validate Others
By definition, validation is recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid. But, why is it so important? Because everyone
Are we too critical about how we look?
We are our own worst critics. This is a saying you have probably come across before. An important follow-up question to ask yourself is, how
I Highly Recommend This Book
I “warn” most of my clients, before I begin working with them, that I am a book nerd and it is very likely that they
Does your body need to EARN love and acceptance?
Let’s talk about body love and acceptance. An article was published years ago that brought truth to light about how messages about a body’s worth
Family, the Holidays, and Your Relationship with Food
We have entered the time of year where holiday gatherings are happening frequently and having a healthy relationship with food an be challenging. Spending time
Mindfulness
I have been contemplating mindfulness this week. One reason is that I practice Iyengar Yoga with local community members once a week. On the last
Scarsdale Self-care Day Ideas
Taking a day or even a moment to prioritize your needs and re-energize is great for your mental health. In and near Scarsdale, there are
Taking breaks
This blog post on taking breaks was inspired by feeling stuck writing a blog post! Taking a Break Last week, I sat at my computer
Masking and the Impact on Authentic Self
I love watching art restoration videos as a form of self-care. I also find these videos can be an accurate metaphor for therapy. Just as
How can I prepare for EMDR therapy?
EMDR is a therapeutic model we use in our practice to treat trauma. Interestingly, many of the inquiries we receive about EMDR come from individuals who
What To Expect In Starting Therapy With Us
Have you decided to reach out for help? It is a big and important step. You might feel overwhelmed and anxious about starting therapy. Therapy
How to Manage Burnout
Drs. Emily and Amelia Nagowski explore the topic of how to manage burnout in their book, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Before
Levels of Care for Eating Disorder Treatment
Often I find that talking about higher levels of care for eating disorder treatment with a client can evoke fear. Consequently, most of that fear
15 Self-Care Ideas
Hard day? In a stressful and time-constrained world, self-care is essential. But, it doesn’t need to be just another thing on your to-do list. In
“Why?” and “What if…?”: The Anxious Mind Wants to Know
A lot of situations and experiences can lead to you feeling anxious. However, what you do with the anxious thoughts is what breaks the cycle
Community’s Importance
COMMUNITY “Being around people who loved me and whom I loved healed me.” – Dr. Marisa G. Franco Social Connection Quite simply, you are wired
Body Neutrality and How To Achieve It
Body neutrality is a waypoint between body negativity and body positivity. Sometimes, body neutrality is the end goal; however, it can be a nice middle
Can I do EMDR online?
A question I am frequently asked is, “Can EMDR be done online?” The answer is yes, it can! Over recent years various online EMDR platforms
Anxiety and Avoidance: The Self-fulfilling Prophecy
Anxiety and avoidance are best friends when it comes to keeping someone stuck. First, let’s talk about ANXIETY. Anxiety lives in the body and the
What is an empathy miss?
Defining an empathy miss is important question, but first, it’s important that you know the different parts of empathy. If you didn’t get a chance
Improve your mood right now with these 5 things
Are you looking to improve your mood? Have you had a hard day? Maybe you are stressed or feeling down? Here are five things you
Empathy
What is Empathy? Empathy is “the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another.”
Social Media and Self-perception
Engagement in social media use is a prevalent part of how we spend our time. A way to fill time, to “decompress,” to avoid, to
Eating Disorder Table Behaviors
Those little behaviors… Let’s talk about some lesser known eating disorder symptoms that actually have a big impact. Oftentimes eating disorder thoughts, urges and behaviors
Self-Compassion
“Self-compassion is a way of emotionally recharging our batteries. Rather than becoming drained by helping others, self-compassion allows us to fill up our internal reserves, so
What is Normal Eating?
Normal eating can be a difficult concept to grasp if you or a loved one are struggling with an eating disorder or a problematic relationship
Connection, Break and Repair: Where We Get Stuck
Connection, break and repair are part of a natural cycle we go through in every relationship, even with ourselves! In his research, John Gottman found
Body Image Tips and Tricks
Stay away from the scale – as a matter of fact, get rid of it! If your weight needs to be monitored, leave that up
Connection, Break and Repair: A Relationship Cycle
Connection, break and repair are a natural part of the relationship cycle we go through, even with ourselves! In his research, John Gottman found that
Making a Bid for Connection
John Gottman, a renowned relationship researcher, identifies that a bid is how we tell someone that we want attention in our relationship. A bid can
Teens, Mental Health, and the Developing Brain
Being a teenager comes with many challenges. During this time we are met with an increasingly challenging academic workload, navigating more complex social interactions and
7 Ways to Co-regulate with your Loved One
Co-regulation is a tool that is used in secure relationships that helps you to teach, model, demonstrate and invite emotional regulation through your own example.
Setting yourself up for success
Rest is vital. Rest is not “laziness.” You do not need to “earn” rest. Often times therapy will focus on setting yourself up for success.
5 Love Languages
We do relationship and family work at Cultivating Courage Psychological Services. One of the tools we use to help increase connection is love languages. Dr.
The Power of Routine
What is your morning or nighttime routine? Having a routine to open and close your day can be very grounding and rewarding. Routines provide predictability
Gratitude
November is a month where gratitude comes to the forefront and we are grateful for it! Practicing gratitude has many psychological benefits, including lowering stress
What Brings You Joy?
It is easy to get bogged down in routine, daily checklists, and tackling the next stressor. Take a moment to reflect on the last time
Emotions Journaling
“Naming an emotion begins the process of regulating and reflecting on it.” Dr. Sue Johnson Brene Brown’s research shows that on average a person can
DBT Skill: Opposite Action
Sometimes the emotion doesn’t fit the facts of what’s going on or acting on the emotion would not be effective. If this is true for