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Escapism…what the heck is that?

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Let’s start with figuring out what escapism is! 

Escapism is the act of mentally separating from something unpleasant by focusing on something entertaining or getting lost in your imagination.

Forms of entertainment in these situations usually come from electronics. It’s so easy to grab your phone and spend time on social media instead of sitting in discomfort. Additionally, there are situations where electronics use may not be appropriate. This is where your imagination comes into play. For example, you are stressed at work and spend five minutes daydreaming of an upcoming vacation. 

I’m sure you are wondering… is escapism good or bad?

As is true for most things, it’s both and neither. It’s all about how you are using escapism and how it is impacting your life. Daydreaming and taking a break in uncomfortable situations can be helpful. However, escapism is problematic when it becomes another way to avoid. 

Escapism and avoidance can easily become best friends. This is a dangerous pair! It can feel good in the moment to separate from your problems, but they are still there when you step back into the moment. 

So, I’m sure you are thinking, what do I do about problematic escapism?

First, just notice. Pay attention to when you feel the need to escape. Is there a pattern? How much time are you spending to escape? At what point does scrolling turn from something enjoyable into just something to do?

Second, baby steps lead to sustainable change. Set timers on social media apps. Plan your daydreaming time. Give yourself guidelines for how long you escape. 

Third, challenge yourself to sit with discomfort. This is the hardest part. Tolerating discomfort takes practice and gets easier over time. Try waiting 30 seconds before you pick up your phone. Taking a minute to stretch or get water before daydreaming. Take a deep breath and name your emotions. 

Fortunately, you can reclaim the use of escapism for good, as a form of mental refuge.

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